The black funnel: #MeToo, #BlackLivesMatter and IAn Action Canada op-ed
Action Canada Fellows are asked to write an op-ed during the course of their fellowship year to show the potential impact of this medium. This piece originally appeared in French in La Presse on July 10, 2020 and was translated by Nicole Kennedy.
I’m a survivor. As a child involved in sports, I was sexually assaulted by an adult in a position of authority. It was not the #MeToo movement that spurred me to denounce this violence. Rather, it is the #BlackLivesMatter movement and recent anti-Black racism demonstrations that have given me the strength to speak my truth after 10 years of silence.
My experience of violence was multidimensional. Yes, my youth, gender and the resulting power imbalance were factors. But for several years I was also the target of my attacker’s denigrating comments about the colour of my skin and my socio-economic status.
My abuser regularly mocked the neighbourhood where I grew up, calling it a “ghetto.” He insulted me and my family because I was raised by a single stay-at-home mom.
He often said he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public because I am Black. He said I should never go to Haiti, even though it was my dream to see the land of my ancestors, because, in his opinion, it was “a country of crazy people.” My attacker was not a Black man. But he was abnormally obsessed the colour of my skin, an obsession that he would express to me in any way he could, and I didn’t know how to respond to it other than with confused silence.
As a Black teenager, born and raised in Quebec, hearing these hurtful comments on a regular basis from an adult I trusted left a lasting impression. The assaults had a profound impact on my mental health, self-esteem and cultural identity. The weak representation of Blacks in the cultural and media spheres, as well as the racism I experienced in school, exacerbated the impact of this violence. When Black people are not made invisible, they are presented as undesirables. Ultimately, this omnipresent discourse colours our interpersonal interactions. It influences the way in which our Black bodies, in particular Black women’s bodies, are perceived in our society.
Although scarred for life by this traumatic experience, I am freeing myself from its shackles. I no longer feel shame. I refuse to apologize for existing. What happened to me was not my fault. I am a valuable person. My attacker had a responsibility to promote the healthy development of young people, a responsibility that he failed miserably to fulfill. I deserved better.
I’m writing today not to seek pity or advice. I am speaking out to put a face on a situation that has been inadequately addressed in Québec. I am speaking up in defence of the teenage girl I once was, who nobody protected or was able to defend.
The resurgence of accusations on social networks points to an endemic social evil. I hear stories like mine every day from childhood girlfriends, in my role as a community or social worker, when I give talks, and in my research work. Sexual violence pervades every sphere of life, including schools, universities, the arts and cultural spheres, work, the army, and the family, to name just a few. As Mélanie Thivierge, executive director of the Montréal YWCA, wrote in La Presse in December 2019, “Cette violence, elle est partout” [this form of violence is everywhere]. Her recommendation to hold a public inquiry on this social problem merits serious consideration.
The tip of the iceberg
To be sure, accusations posted on social media have personal, family, legal and social consequences that demand reflection. Deciding to keep quiet has consequences, too. What we need to understand from this recent wave of accusations is that our society is insidiously forcing survivors into the narrow confines of a funnel. It is the symptom of a generalized lack of trust in the legal system with regard to sexual violence. We are still in this position today because of the lack of adapted, accessible options that are tailored to survivors’ needs. Despite #MeToo in 2017. And despite #beenrapedneverreported in 2014. There will be more waves like the one we’re experiencing in Québec today. We’re still seeing only the tip of the iceberg.
Our society is failing to prevent sexual violence and protect victims. We are collectively responsible for this crisis of confidence. With regard to sexual violence, there is a gap between legal equality and substantive equality. A fundamental and cultural change is needed.
We must collectively expand the scope of justice and reparation options beyond the criminal justice system, which tends to re-victimize survivors, particularly women survivors from Black communities.
Québec has the capacity to do better. We can set an example and set the tone in this fight, because sexual violence is a persistent global scourge in 2020. Let us be visionary and ambitious. Let’s be part of the solution, each in our own way. Let’s have the courage to flip the funnel upside down and move toward a greater openness. We should applaud recent legislative changes such as the abolition of the statute of limitations for reporting sexual assault in civil cases and the adoption of the Act to Prevent and Fight Sexual Violence in Higher Education Institutions. These are signs that our society is evolving. But, much remains to be done.
This collective discussion is difficult and uncomfortable but necessary. It has begun and now must be continued. We need to be more vigorous in this fight and show solidarity with all the survivors. We must fight this scourge on several fronts, both in its most visible and insidious forms. Like anti-Black racism, sexual violence is systemic. It is critically important to clearly spell out the interlocking nature of these different forms of oppression, a reality that tends to be overlooked in public policy and programs on sexual violence in Québec. We are fighting not only for the survivors, past and present, but also, for our future as a society.